When the parties to a marriage believe that a marriage is over or “irretrievably broken”, there is no issue as to whether the divorce should take place. Irretrievably broken means that there is no hope of fixing the marriage. As long as one party to the marriage believes it is broken beyond repair, a dissolution of the marriage will ultimately happen. A broken marriage, however, CAN be fixed by a divorce, it seems. Well technically, the relationship is fixed, but the marriage will have ended. I recently came across an article about couples remarrying after divorce. You can read the article, (“Why Do Divorced Couple Remarry” by clicking here.) There are no available statistics that explain the exact number, but it does happen. The article generally credits remarriage of divorced couples to the healing power of time apart. People have the chance to forgive, to try new things or relationships, and also realize that the problems were not necessarily the people themselves—marriage is simply hard. I personally know of a woman whose parents were married to each other on three separate occasions.
A divorce does not have to go through completely before any benefit can be gained from filing for dissolution. As a Jacksonville divorce lawyer, I have come across several cases where the filing of the divorce paperwork itself helps to save a marriage. Mostly, it is the wife that will file for divorce and have it act as a huge wake-up call for the husband. Although, I have seen it go both ways, however. I imagine that the filing of the divorce petition shows the other spouse that there is a serious problem that needs addressing. Continue reading